Thank you for your open, neutral, and polite response. I really do appreciate that!
When I posted, I was quietly thinking “I’ll need to get that asbestos suit out of the cupboard, someone is sure to get upset.” But read it again. I said “inappropriate physical contact.” The joke is the double entendre of “tap pass”, not that inappropriate behavior towards women is funny.
I’ve read that thread and have contributed. And I absolutely agree with you. I see inappropriate behavior play itself out at almost every meet I go to. Not from the majority of participants, but there are always some men who exhibit sexist behavior. The problem is continuously being swept under the table, and men are very rarely called out for it.
It’s easy (and correct) to throw someone out of a tournament for inappropriate physical contact. It is impossible to do the same for sexism that is subtle and expressed in ways that are open to interpretation. Subtle belittling remarks, ignoring women who speak up during a discussion and choosing to address the concern of another man instead, etc. (There are many more ways to put down women that, overtly, are not sexist, but are sexist nevertheless.)
Partly, I posted the joke because I think the problem needs more attention. And partly because it might become a meme:
Woman 1: "That guy just made a tap pass, can you believe it?"
Woman 2: “What a fossil!”
And partly because it’s a reverse dig at the men. Because, if such behavior did not exist, there would have been no joke to make.