Heck of a topic for a first post, but I guess everyone starts somewhere, and I was unaware of this forum before this discussion popped up on some other social media sites I frequent.
I'm hoping that I wasn't the cause of anyone's distress, but was involved in an incident that some might consider sexism but certainly wasn't intended that way.
I arrived at the PreReplay Pingolf tournament, and was promptly assigned my group, which was 50/50 male/female. Being ever the organizer, I tried to get my group going but had no idea how we decided who went first in Pingolf, it being my first experience with the format.
I can't remember my exact phrasing, but unfortunately enough the term "ladies first?" came up, and was shot down very vehemently, and rightly so. While I was only trying to be polite and friendly, after reading some of the crap that female players have gone thru I can totally see how that would have been interpreted as sexist pandering. For that I am sorry, and it won't be repeated. That being said, I think there were some hard feelings in both directions, certainly mine, that carried into Pinburgh the next day, and again I'm sorry.
My eldest daughter is becoming quite a good player, but is often uncomfortable in competitions as one of only a few female players. I would certainly not want to be a contributor to anyone's discomfort. I'm hoping to bring her to the tournament next year, and one of the selling points is the number of female participants. Anything that can be done to increase that number is a good thing, in my opinion.