I think the issue here, however, is creating environments that ARE welcome to women, because frankly, there aren't really that many of them, and most of them right now are located in the Pacific Northwest region. Ideally, there would be as many women playing pinball as men with an equal number of places accomodating both groups, or even more so, a lot of places welcoming to both (as the former would just be Jim Crow for the sexes).
As it stands though, there are entire large metropolitan areas in North America where there is not one single place with an environment that feels welcome to women, and such a thing has only come up recently. Pinball is currently male-dominated because the men reinforce each other while a woman can easily feel like an outsider and thus unwelcome.
I should point out that the Sinosphere is like that and has always been like that. (The Sinosphere includes places like China, Korea, Japan, Taiwan, and southeast Asia, and to a lesser extent the Philippines, Malaysia, Indonesia, Mongolia, and Nepal.) In these countries, it is considered highly rude to go right up to someone and speak to them without proper introductions or knowing who they are first, and there are specific rules of conduct for politeness. You are to keep your distance and be as quiet to strangers as possible.
It's why in these countries, part of the American stereotype is that they are loud, intrusive, have no sense of personal space, and are uncaring of the person they speak to. Whatever personal bubble an ordinary American might have, it is way smaller than the personal bubble for an ordinary east Asian. (At least, that's how it seems to be every time I would go visit my family there, and based on my experiences working within a Korean community.)
I can say this: Kyoto Animation had traditionally created anime series with a lot of eye candy for its male viewers. When they made Free!, aimed at women about attractive male swimmers, the reaction from Kyoto Animation's fans got absolutely livid. They were talking as if Kyoto Animation was an old friend who abandoned or betrayed them or something. (Free would go on to become Kyoto Animation's biggest success in ratings and merchandise sales.)
Not to mention all of the heaps of hate any time you have male pop musicians aimed at teenage girls. There was N*Sync and Backstreet Boys in the 90's, and you have Justin Bieber and One Direction today. (And many others--I'd say the 2010s has seen a resurgence of pop marketed to girls.) I think it says something that teenage heartthrobs like Leonardo diCaprio and Justin Timberlake were the devil incarnate in the eyes of many guys, but once they moved on to become actors aimed at general audiences, the hate wore off. And now Joey Fatone is hosting reality TV and getting more respect from men because of it.
If I had to give an explanation here, I think envy fuels much of it. These attractive guys who win the hearts of thousands, if not millions, of girls and women tap into a kind of primal feeling of rivalry and competition, even if the former consists of fictional characters and the latter are celebrities no normal person can ever reach.
But the point remains: When you DO get cases where something comes out with a lot of eye candy for women, the men get furious. Whereas when you get the tons of stuff with eye candy for men, and women get angry, the men get angry back. I think that's a double standard right there.
And I know Justin Bieber's been a gigantic jerk as of late. That, if you ask me, is completely independent of any kind of sexism, and the hate that gets piled on him for THOSE reasons, I feel, is at least partially deserved. What I mean is the initial hate, and current hate, towards Bieber mainly because he appeals so well to girls. (Well, not as much as he used to, but it's still there.)
Maybe it's because I was always an outsider growing up, but I never liked the idea of exclusionism. The principle behind it is that you're part of something that not everyone is allowed to be part of, and that's supposed to make you feel superior. I find that mindset abhorrent.
Doxxing and harassment? The idea that feminism is evil? I didn't think it had become that bad. There are circles on places like YouTube and GameFAQs I never visit because of that kind of malice against women, or even men who stand up to women. I figured Pinside would eventually become like that, but I didnt think it'd be that quick.
I like what you're doing right now. Don't stop just because they all want you to.
(I haven't seen the word "feminazi" for a long time now. The word "feminist" in general seems to have taken on that definition lately.)