I had something similar happen to me in the C finals of Pinburgh 2 years ago. I was playing on Stern Trek. I had horrible nothing balls on ball 1 and ball 2. I was able to get 3 torpedoes on ball 2 with all my flailing. If I'm remembering correctly, I had 4 hits to drop the drop target for vengeance. So the torpedoes were not going to get me there. I was saving them to either use once I had enough hits to bring the drop target down or save them for vengeance multiball.
Anyway, my ball 3 was also pretty much a house ball and I never ended up using the torpedoes. I ended the game with under 4 million. I was pretty disappointed with my play. After getting a 0 on that game and this eliminating me from advancing, this guy that was watching comes up to me and says, "You had 3 torpedoes. Just so you know, you can use those to drop down the drop target so you can get multiball." I was like, "Umm. I KNOW that." He responded by saying, "Well, you lose them after each ball, so you should use them." I said, "Actually, they carry over ball to ball" and then walked off. I was FURIOUS. It's extremely embarrassing and rude to assume someone doesn't know how to play a game when they are in the fucking finals of a large tournament.
I can't imagine how the women feel when this probably happens to them 10x more than men get it. On top of that it's broadcast for the world to see which makes it exponentially worse.