Cross-posted from Facebook -
So, a couple of things:
1) I wrote the original post on Tilt Forums. Hi! I'm Elizabeth! You might know me from such adventures as PAPA, Pinburgh, and the Replay Foundation.
2) I asked Bowen's permissions to use his name and likeness ahead of time, and ran the original post by him. He reminded me of a couple of scenarios I'd forgotten, and I incorporated them.
3) The post was birthed from a recurring conversation I've been having with women for a long while, and I decided, after a long talk with Priyanka on Saturday, to take all of the things I have witnessed and anecdotes I had heard and make this post because;
4) A lot of the time, when these comments and situations happen, I absolutely believe the person who said/did them does not know that they are saying/doing a sexist thing. So it only seems right that maybe I try to educate that person and call it out. Which leads to;
5) I am sometimes really, really bad about calling it out. It's a lot easier to smile and nod and brush it off in the moment than it is to actually deal with it.
6) But that grows tiresome and infuriating as more and more women have the same conversation over and over and over. Oh, you're new to pinball? Playing three whole months? And you're getting the same attitude and comments and actions I've been getting for 16 years? Maybe I should open my stupid fucking mouth then, because;
7) I am absolutely, 1000% convinced that I get far, far, far less of this shit than my fellow women, because I have been visible in this scene and in a position of prominence (for lack of a better term) for so long. I know, without a doubt, that I am respected in this community. And I know, without a doubt, that if you stood on the red carpet at PAPA and called my friends cows for putting up a good ball, and I said something, you would feel bad.
8) There's been a lot of talk on these threads about Pinburgh, and the behavior there. I want to point out that that is because this was the most recent really big show, and not because Pinburgh/ReplayFX is a hostile environment. We have a strict code of conduct. Players have been yellow carded, people have been ejected. This is MY event. I'm an ORGANIZER. I have been there since the beginning, since the old Pinburgh in the Best Western conference room. Please, PLEASE do not think that what is being described is specific to my tournaments and shows.
9) The entire point is that this happens everywhere, and that, hopefully, by making people who would otherwise already be allies aware that this is offensive, hurtful, condescending, and rude, that people might take a moment to think before speaking, or speak up when they see this behavior.
10) The only agenda here is to shed light on an issue that a lot of people are experiencing in the community at large, in the hopes that the community will grow and become a more welcoming space. That's it. More people enjoying more pinball.
So, that's it. That's my point and my agenda. And I want to point out, too, in case it isn't crystal clear, that I speak for myself, and not the foundation I am associated with - but most of you know me from there, and know that absolutely none of us would put up with some of the described behavior, were it brought to our attention. Please bring it to our attention. Don't just discuss it on the internet after the fact. Tell us then, so we can take action, and actively work to make a better space for all people.