I’ve followed this thread and it’s short necro-rebirth with some interest. My opinions on it haven’t really changed.
I can’t control how others will respond to me. I can have the best of intentions when raising an issue, giving feedback, or just talking to someone, and there’s always the chance that person will misinterpret what I’m saying and over-react. All I can do is just be myself and if I happen to run into someone like this, I’ll just disengage. Fortunately for me it rarely happens.
As it relates to sexism in pinball (or anything for that matter), it seems to me the safest course of action is to just not talk to anyone. I can’t be accused of being sexist if I ignore everyone (I think). I’d rather just be myself, but frankly I don’t want to do the mental gymnastics required to analyze every situation and make sure I’m not falling into a sexism trap. It doesn’t seem worth it.